Defining moments – Unslackable

In memory of my brother. Jovanny Andre Boche May 28, 1994 – January 1st, 2021.

There are defining moments in our life that change us, and this is one of those moments for me. Imagine living your entire life thinking you know who you are but only to find out that you are someone else.

I’ve recently received news that will change my life forever. I have the following repeating question in my head; Where do I go from here?

When I received the news at first, I felt it was about me. Why me? Why now? Why do these things continue happening in my life?

After a few days, I took a moment to pause, reflect and ask myself the following; what else can this mean? Where is the blessing within this madness? Who else can I serve?

Sometimes we find the answers quickly, but most other times, it’s harder to understand as we fight to discover our purpose and role during those times of turbulence. There are painful encounters that we will all experience within our lifetime, and these are the defining moments that will determine our destiny.

I would lie if I had all the answers at this very moment because I don’t. I don’t fully understand things at this very moment; I feel pain in my heart, and I morn the death of a brother I had but didn’t know.

But here is what I do know.

If I’ve learned anything in my 47 years of existence, our lives are meant to have peaks and valleys. We may not like it, but it’s the truth. We will have moments of bliss and heartbreaking moments. We will encounter life and experience death.

There will be good, bad, and shocking news. But what we do with that news and how we decide to react to it will define us and those around us.

It’s in the darkest times that a strong support system becomes the difference-maker.

We are meant to grow, to learn to love, and to adapt to change. Hard to do, buts it’s a reality. If you are dealing with something painful in your life, remember this.

Stay strong, always search for the blessing when things happen, and surround yourself with good people. Continue loving, believing.